Everyone has trials in their lives and struggles from time to time. There’s a Buddhist teaching that pain is inevitable or unavoidable, but suffering is not. Suffering is optional, according to that philosophy. How can that be? And what’s the difference in the first place? Pain is about what happens to you. As a child, it’s falling and skinning your knee…or worse things. It’s things that hurt. Suffering, is the story you tell about the hurt. Seeing a therapist can help.
It’s telling yourself “this is terrible”, “I can’t stand this”, “when will this ever end?!” instead of meeting it where it is and using logic to find solutions. The suffering is when a therapist might be beneficial. When the pain is preventing you from living your life the way you want to (being kind to people around you, doing your best work, enjoying your hobbies) live it, please don’t hesitate. Reach out. You are not alone.
In fact, 1 in 4 Americans struggles with a mental health issue. Personally, I think that number is higher than the statistics we have show it to be, but even 25% is a huge number! We all have a responsibility to have some awareness about mental health issues and how to care for each other (and ourselves) if we’re one of the 1 in 4. One of the biggest barriers I see to people seeking treatment is pride.
I see a lot of people who feel like they’re a failure if they need help. Do you set your own bones if you break them? Do you write scripts for your own antibiotics when you catch an infection? And are you any weaker for seeing a doctor for those things? We treat mental health so much differently from physical health and I’m honestly not entirely sure why. Because we can’t see it?
You can compare height and weight and eye color. You can compare sizes of tumors or severity of bone breaks. You can’t compare mental health, at least not easily. So we try to attribute our emotional hurts to undesirable personality traits: lazy, weak, etc. We’re still a long way from considering people of different physical abilities our equals and when it comes to different emotional abilities, we’re very far from the target. Being more emotionally sensitive does not make you inferior in any way shape or form. Needing help with something that “other people handle with no problem” does not make you less awesome. What does make you awesome is asking for help when you need it. What makes you awesome is advocating for others who are struggling.
There are a vast number of things therapists can help with:
- recurrent nightmares
- difficulty sleeping
- intrusive thoughts about food, death, and/or worry
- depressed mood
- employment issues
- frequent feelings of panic or fear
- chronic pain issues
- trouble adjusting to changes in your life
- difficulties with relationships (all kinds)
- grief over a loss
Please don’t suffer in silence. I’d be honored to be a part of your journey and help you find peace and healing. You can enjoy your life and you deserve to. There are a lot of stereotypes out there about therapy and what it is. Come find out yourself instead. There are a variety of styles of therapy that are designed and supported by research to help you feel better and be the best version of you. Give it a shot, try it on for size and see if it can help if you’re struggling.
Be well and I’m so glad you’re reading this and giving me the honor of having a little place in your life. I’m so grateful that you’re here and read this. I’d love to meet you!
Perspectives Therapy Services is a multi-site mental and relationship health practice with clinic locations in Brighton, Lansing, Highland and Fenton, Michigan. Our clinical teams include experienced, compassionate and creative therapists with backgrounds in psychology, marriage and family therapy, professional counseling, and social work. Additionally, we offer psychiatric care in the form of evaluations and medication management. Our practice prides itself on providing extraordinary care. We offer a customized matching process to prospective clients whereby an intake specialist carefully assesses which of our providers would be the very best fit for the incoming client. We treat a wide range of concerns that impact a person's mental health including depression, anxiety, relationship problems, grief, low self-worth, life transitions, and childhood and adolescent difficulties.